Not only is there no hiding it, they wake you up most mornings.
But even if you wanted to push it to the back of your mind for one moment, it's the thing most people are most likely to tell you after asking "Are they twins?".
In spite of peoples general preconceptions that having twins is hard work, there are some real bonuses that means I'd definitely choose to have twins next time (Note to family: there's not going to be a next time, sorry!).
So, here we go:
- There is nothing cuter than two little babies cwtching into each other to fall asleep.
- There is no pressure to ensure your baby is socialising with other babies... it was part of the deal.
- The laughter- how can two babies find each other so funny?
- Doors become funny- one on each side, pushing it open and shut- comedians have missed a trick.
- You read the books that encourage toys in cots for extra time in the morning. Never worked with Seren. Can leave the boys for hours throwing things back and forth between their cots.
- Never scrounging round to find enough clothes to fill a white or colour wash.
- You become an optimist- your washing basket is always half full.
- The sympathy vote, you do get preferential treatment with a baby- that more than doubles with twins.
- You have the trump card from mums with singletons, how can they possible complain about nappy changes and bugs when they just have one. The truth is their sympathies are misplaced- you don't get any more arms when you have twins, so you can't do anymore.
- It doesn't matter how many children you have, some babies never sleep through, some babies are fussy, babies are all different. Some parents of singletons have it far worse and yet mums of multiples get all the attention.
- There's no toddler resentment toward twins- a toddler can't focus their attention on two the way they can with one.
- You get the benefit of choice... with one you have to narrow your options on important purchases... with two there's no pressure for the final choice.
- You get the comparison, is he progressing well? Is he teething, crawling, walking? No, but neither is his brother- nothing to worry about then.
- So, your husband thinks two children will be enough, you need to bring him round to the idea of three, how did you do that?
- It's great for work- they think you're contributing to organisation efficiency by having one maternity leave for two children.
- You never throw away half eaten jars of baby food because a single baby can't actually manage a whole jar.
- Those two for the price of one offers are always appropriate.
- I only have to do this once, if I had gone for three separate pregnancies I'd be thinking about starting the sleep deprivation all over again about now.
- I have two boys to look out for their big sister, and to look out for each other.
- If you have non-ID twins, and you're ever looking to answer the question "Are you planing more?" the fact the consultant told you there's an increased chance of having twins next time seems to stop the questioning short.
I've got to a Top 20, and the boys are only 15 months, we've so much to look forward to, we've only just started.
Please pop along to Multiple Mummy's blog to see more posts.as part of this carnival, and more posts on being a mum to multiple.
Multiple Mummy was one of the first blogs I found when I started and, like the multiple support networks on Facebook and TAMBA, really helps ensure the great side of raising little people is there, giving some fab ideas to occupy time and keeping positive.
This isn't an Oscar's speech, but when I heard who was hosting this month's carnival, the inspiration of a 'best of' list was obvious.